How To Charm a Woman

 

I stumbled upon this fabulous article by David Wygant and I have to say well done. He list ten things to keep in mind; Be Aware, Demonstrate Humor, Have Passion, Be Considerate, Be Honest, Be Flexible, Be Positive, Be Balanced, Have Ambition, and Be Attentive. That’s a good list! You have to read the details on each one of these but I will add from my point of view, now keep in mind they are directly related to what I’ve experience in my life. Every woman is different just like men are. You need to tune in to who they are and what’s important to them.

Don’t force your way in and pretend to be someone you are not and I can as easily say the same for women as well. The price to pay for this one is big. Sooner or later one gets tired of pretending and the whole relationship breaks down in tiny little pieces.

Be Secure – Having self-confidence on who you are will make things easier on everyone. Those who tend to be possesive are screaming “I’m insecure” and end up alone.  Women feel good at the beginning of this watchful eye that wants to be with her all the time, who checks where she is, who wants to know everything about her every move but with time is very annoying. I need someone who loves me and trust me enough to let me have other interests in addition to him. I also like to be able to have my own friends that not necessarily need to be his as well. The only time I would object to a friendship is if it affects the relationship because it takes them to other people or situations that might stress the relationship. I don’t want to speak for all women but I enjoy having my moments alone and when he lets me I want to come to him even more.   

Love Her For Who She Is not for who she could be. One of the worst things men can do is to fall in love with someone and once they have her start critizing every little thing about her and tell her to change her ways. Now you are married or in a relationship and the past self is not acceptable in a lot of circumstances.  Most women complied to the request of such an eloquent argument in order to keep the relationship but as the years go by they notice that the person they are in love with is not them at all! What would happen if they announce that they can be that way anymore? So love her for who she is, the same person who you were attracted to from the beginning, don’t quench her spirit or sooner or later you will be looking for new partner.  

Maker her feel comfortable – I really don’t like to get dramatic but if I’m feeling vulnerable, sad or worried I need to know that that’s okay with him, I don’t need to be perfect just sincere. I want to know he cares, I want to be able to talk to him about anything without being judged and if I need to cry I need for him to just be there and let me do that without asking questions.  Sometimes I might want to be held and then other times I might want to be alone is just a matter of being intune with the other.

Oprah’s show yesterday it was women trying to figure out how to get a man. Steve Santagati wrote the book The Manual the help us out. There is a lot of men out there as I could see who are looking for the same thing women are, you just need to know how to get it. One of the women who went around with Gail doing the interviews was very uptight about the way she should go about it. She refused to dress a little bit sexier when going out to attract attention. Now, I understand her completely, I don’t want to be looked at like a piece of meat but I like to be looked at. So I dress in a tasteful manner. I dress according to where I’m going and I refuse to dress like a grandma. I go to the women section of a clothing store and have to turn around in a hurry. Maybe because in this town are geared mainly to an older clientele, but there is no way I’m going to dress like that.   

And then it was Kathy Freston’s turn sharing her book The One: Discovering The Secrets of Soul Mate Love  The best thing I heard her say was that before we can attract someone in our life we must have whatever it is we are looking for inside of us. We can’t wait for a man to make things right within us, we need to be whole and content with ourselves and only then we will be able to attract the kind of person we can share our life with.

So there you have it, I hope this helps you better understand us. If you think more should be added go ahead and share it with me.